Helicopter Parenting in Golf

November 12, 2014
November 12, 2014

Referring to pHelicopter-Parentsarents who hover excessively over their kids to ensure that they experience every activity unscathed. Helicopter parents think they are protecting their children from all harm, but in sports they are seriously doing more harm than good. Golf is no exception.

From afar, I see so many parents who cross the fine line of support and encouragement and then in turn have a negative effect on their child’s interest in the sport. Some Golf tours that my Juniors compete on do not allow parents on the course, which in my humble opinion is the best thing for everyone involved, unless they are properly trained on caddying. I have seen and experienced firsthand (years ago) the negativity of Helicopter Parenting in Golf and since then it is something that I do not condone whatsoever. I allow parents to watch their children when practicing but when they are with Coach Doug, parents must keep their composure as their child is here to learn from me.

As a parent myself, we always want the best for our kids, but this does not mean that I can jump in at my daughter’s soccer game (I’ve had to LEARN how to practice restraint!) I now leave that up to the professional, her coach. I must state: I am not referring to personal experience with anyone I coach, but this is something I hold dear to my heart as I truly believe this is detrimental in Golf.

We just want to make our children’s lives easier and I totally understand why we feel the want and need to intervene, I still have this sometimes also. I have seen this at all levels of Golf, locally, provincially and internationally.

One thing I do stress is parental involvement in a support role rather than a coaching role. I love when I see keen interest from parents and I stress the value in including parents by showing them how to be supportive and involved. The parent most definitely holds a key role in the child’s ability to improve, it just needs to be approached from the right place.

By allowing your child to make mistakes in their own time and by letting them develop a healthy coach/student relationship, you are ensuring trust in your child and giving them the confidence to shine. Children will always see their parents as number one and the desire for parental approval never dissipates, which is why children THRIVE in an encouraging environment.

The only words that truly need to be said to your child (in any sport) are

“I Love Watching You Play”.
Changing The Game, John O’Sullivan

The Golf Technology Advantage

November 6, 2014
November 6, 2014

flightscope2It’s November, which means the snow is only a few weeks away. Now for most die-hards out there, this brings on such sadness, as it the end of the summer golf season.

Well, I am happy to sit here and remind you that just because the snow is falling, it doesn’t mean that you have to stop swinging!

Indoor Winter golf in Canada is one the best kept secrets in this game. In a way, the indoor golf season is a nice reprieve as it forces us to truly practice without being distracted by playing, like we are in the summer.

I urge you to find a local indoor golf academy, make use of their technology and keep practicing your game. When next summer rolls around, the hard work you put in all winter will have paid off! Golf used to be just a 6-7 month sport, but now with the awesome technology we have access to, pros can truly have a successful business year round.

Just yesterday I was a guest speaker at the Flightscope Certification Course, speaking about how this  technology allows juniors to hone their games. The crowd was enamoured with my stories of how Flightscope helped my juniors come out of last winter hitting 50-60 yards longer.

Juniors love the Flightscope technology as it simulates more video game-esque play. If you’d like to come try this technology out, come see us at our indoor winter academy at 1233 Dillon Rd in Burlington

Option to Quit Makes us Work Harder!

April 4, 2014
April 4, 2014

This is a great post by Greg Marker a trainer who has actually shown that if we are given the option to quit we actually TRY harder, finish tasks and attain goals. Believe it or not!


This article leads directly to a discussion I was having with a parent about their daughter who has ADHD and during our lessons I have found it tremendously successful when she gets frustrated and down on herself, to give her the option to QUIT or she can decide what it is she wants to do. Now that’s not saying I allow her to end the lesson or walk out, but I simply put the decision in HER hands and it is an incredible motivator.

As coaches I think this is a vital part of our learning as we have to be able to know who we are coaching and how to motivate them as best we can. I guess sometimes it takes the “Road less Travelled”.

Read his article here:http://breakingmuscle.com/sports-psychology/why-the-option-to-quit-actually-makes-us-work-harder


Come On Pros…GET DOWN with it!

February 24, 2014
February 24, 2014

I’m 6’3 …. I remember growing up that my Dad would bring his colleague over, Norm whom I thought was the tallest man I had ever seen! ( I was 6 at the time) But I do remember looking WAY up and at times it was a little intimidating. So imagine the thoughts going through ANY and ALL of your Juniors under the age of 12. You are an adult. YOU”RE HUGE in their eyes! They are a kid. They equate your size, stature and appearance to that of their school teachers and their parents.


So where they could be perceiving you as an authority figure or a potential “negative” influence on them, here is your BIGGEST and EASIEST way to show them you are not a threat…..



Kneel, squat, sit, bend over, whatever you do I can guarantee the MINUTE you do this and are now looking them right in their tiny little faces, you are going to WIN far more than you will lose their attention! Why?


Here are my TOP 5 reasons why this works and is something you need to do:

1. Leggo your Ego – Who cares what you look like! Lose the ego and you’ll gain massive influence

2. Kid Level – Now you’re on their level their eyes can fix on YOU and not wander all over looking up and around

3. It Shows You Care – Now they believe you are interested in THEM


4. Gain Perspective – Take a Look around at what is at their eye level cuz it’s been a LONG time since you’ve been that small

5. It’s ALL about Them – The more you show a desire to be on their level and listen to what they are saying, the more there is no fear, no worry and no anxiety.

TRUST ME! Before you know it your kids won’t leave you alone and you will suddenly realize that being a small person comes with a whole different perspective….try it!

GET DOWN ON IT! Your kids will love you for it!

Golf Tip for Crisper Iron Shots

January 10, 2014
January 10, 2014

Hey just thought you might like to see this little video I recorded at the FGG Indoor Academy. If you have a problem with hitting those iron shots that are solid, crisp, and pierce the air then this video will get you there. Enjoy! http://youtu.be/0bAqB0xCW-s

Hey Mr. Marshal … Think before you speak!

December 31, 2013
December 31, 2013

This post is to all those golf course marshals / play co-ordinators / starters and attendants who need a friendly reminder to THINK before they speak the next time they speak to a slow moving group on the course:

This story was told to me yesterday by the father of a young 10 year old girl I coach. It made me want to share it and remember that Jr. Girls Rock!

“Funny story happened today.  She was paired up with a senior husband and wife.   The husband was not bad but the wife was …. Well let’s just say not the best I have seen.   The round was very slow.    After the turn, the Marshall who I did not see all day shows up out of the blue and drives up to my cart and says “do think you can pick up you daughters ball every once an while so we can speed up play”   I politely said “sir I am not sure I understand what you are requesting.   My daughter is 1 over through 9 what exactly do you want me to do”.    Alyssa who was standing not too far away heard the conversation and was so mad. She walked up to the golf cart took her ball from the cart walked to the tee box and bombed 180 yard drive right down the middle of the fairway.   The Marshall said “I am sorry I should not have assumed she was playing slow.”   At the end of the round he was waiting for us on the 18th hole and again apologized in person to Alyssa  after she made par….. Just love seeing that stuff people always assume girls can’t play.  Especially Jr.  girls. I Just Love it.    Don’t mess with her!”



So don’t be surprised if you get to the golf course this season and you are greeted by a scene such as this and hear the words: “WE GOT NEXT!”

I suggest you just stand and watch!

Hit Longer Drives – Sequence For Distance

December 9, 2013
December 9, 2013

One of the biggest keys to hitting longer drives is utilizing the stored power available in an efficient swing sequence. So today we wanted to share with you a great practice drill to improve your swing sequence and this applies if you are a junior golfer or weekend warrior.

One of the biggest reasons golfers fail to hit consistent long powerful golf shots is they have the wrong swing sequence. Read more

Focus Golf Group Moves Indoors

November 7, 2013
November 7, 2013

Read a Blog post written in Golf News Now about our moving into the Burlington Fitness & Racquet Club.

Click HERE for the article

Click HERE for the Winter Academy Details

Coaching the Child

October 28, 2013
October 28, 2013

Web_Birdies2AMy close friend Kate Tempesta (www.ktuga.com) is one of the leading child development golf instructors and an inspiration to myself. I wanted to share with you her latest blog post on “Coaching the Child”. I hope you enjoy it.http://www.ktuga.com/category/blog-categories/authored-kate

Doug Lawrie Profile in Ontario Golf News

May 14, 2013
May 14, 2013

Great story in Ontario Golf News about Director of Instruction and FGG Academy owner, Doug Lawrie: http://www.flagstick.com/digitalissues/ogndigi_2013/ogndigispring2013/files/70.html